An interesting thing has been happening since I wrote Help last week. People have been coming forward and sharing their personal struggles and difficult feelings with me. Which is great! I mean, that was a big reason why I wrote the post. Openly talking about the tough stuff takes the pressure off. It relieves the facade of needing to be perfect that is so prevalent in today’s society.
But, I want to make something clear. Just because my struggle, cancer, tends to seem more serious, doesn’t make your struggle any less real or any less important. Many of the conversations I’ve had, have gone something like this, “I know it doesn’t compare to anything that you’re going through, but I feel the same way” or “what you’re going through is way harder than anything I’m experiencing”. I appreciate the sentiment and recognition of the serious nature of my situation. But please don’t get caught downplaying yours. I don’t want anyone to think my problem is somehow superior to yours. Because it’s not. Your situation, your struggle is just as equally important. It’s not a competition of who suffers more. It’s about relating to the commonality within us all.
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